In my last post about whether or not you’re providing value to your readers I said that the term value would mean “different things for different people and there is no way you can please everybody so there is no use in trying.” I was thinking about that today and I came to the conclusion that particular statement just didn’t cut it, that perhaps it needed a post all of it’s own.
I know if I was to look at my own life I could safely say that I’m the type of guy that is always trying to please everyone around me. Business wise it makes sense as you want to make sure that your customers are always satisfied and personal wise it also makes perfect sense because you also want to make your loved ones are happy. But at what cost?
Let’s not kid ourselves, keeping others happy always comes at a cost and we’re the ones that are paying for it. The problem is that for some people they don’t know when to say no and they are so busy trying to keep others happy that it affects their own quality of life. This is not a good thing and learning to say no once in awhile won’t make you a bad person. Even when it comes to business there are times when the customer has to realize that you can’t just drop everything for something that can wait until tomorrow.
I used to have the tendency to let this infect my blogging life. I used to worry about every post. Was it up to scratch? Will people like it? Will someone leave a comment and if they do will I be able to respond in kind, and you know what, it didn’t make my posts any better, in fact it made them worse and it almost ended my blogging career.
That’s when I decided I wasn’t going to worry about trying to please everyone. I decided it was an impossible task and rather than let it ruin my blogging experience I decided to throw the idea of pleasing everyone out the cyber window. Almost immediately blogging became enjoyable again, I felt one with the blogging world and it showed it my posts. No longer strained and withdrawn they jumped to life and my witty lovable self started to shine through.
Truth be told no matter how much you worry about stuff it’s not going to change the state of the way things are. Just do your best enjoying the process and bask in the knowledge that you just can’t please everyone but at least those few you did please were nice enough to leave a comment. What’s that, they only wanted a link back to their site? Well tough titties, it’s still a damn comment.