This is a poem that I called “Why Must It be This Way?” and in writing it I tried to imagine what it must be like for an innocent girl on her first date, how she could react and hopefully how she in the end she should react. Perhaps my perspective of this is tarnished ever since I became the father of a daughter even though I do not recall ever acting in such an uncouth manner.
It sort of brings to mind the Joe South classic made famous by Elvis Presley, “Walk A Mile In My Shoes”. Perhaps if we could physically do that before making rash judgments that lead to one person hurting another, the world could start to become a better place.
Anyway without further ado I present to you Why Must It be This Way?
When you asked me out that day
I thought it too good to be true
My insides all a flutter, I said OK
Oh if I only knew what would pursue
Why did you wait so long?
Why do I feel this way?
My heart is beating like a gong
Please don’t lead me astray
You took me out that night
We had a burger fries and a shake
We talked about the things that might
Affect us and the paths we would take
I can’t believe I am with you
It’s like it’s meant to be
What would you do if you knew?
How much you meant to me
You drove to a secluded spot
You parked the car, the night so still
And in my mouth your tongue it shot
Too much, too quick, it was no thrill
Why must you go so fast?
This is all too new, I’m so scared
I want to make this last
I really thought you cared
Not satisfied your hands did grope
As you fondled my breast, I’m shocked
Too much, too soon, I could not cope
Our mouth together our lips were locked
Why must you be so rough?
It wasn’t supposed to be like this
Please, I think I’ve had enough
Why can’t we just kiss?
My mind was numb senses reeling
I pushed him away and told him NO
My breasts you bastard you kept feeling
The next step not where I wished to go
Mom was right, I’m not ready
I should have listened and stayed at home
I wish he would stop already
He’s like a beast his mouth all foam
You pull away face contorted
I did no wrong so don’t blame me
The name you used when you retorted
A light bulb moment, now I can see
No piece of meat to be used
I’m a person that needs respect
No-one’s feelings should be abused
Those sorts of guys you should reject.
If their are any young girls reading this, please remember that you should hold onto your respect and that no male is worth you losing that. The oldest line that boys will ever use is the one that goes something like this; “If you really loved me then” and the rest tapers on to you letting him cop a feel etc. until he gets what he finally wants. In truth, if he really loved you he would never ever put you into that situation.
A male’s psyche is different from a woman as for a hell of a lot of men doing the deed is all that counts. For a woman it means so much more.
I would really love to get a reaction from both males and females as to how they perceive all that I have said.
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I think this is quite true for many people and you’re certainly right that people like that are not worth it. Although it seems to me that with a new found sexual freedom (over the last 50 years) some women are just as frivolous as men and sex doesn’t mean that much anymore.
Even in loving relationships sex means different things for men and women — women get just as much emotional satisfaction from other things that men might not. However in unloving relationships there is no satisfaction for at least one side.
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Yeah, I know how things have changed a lot, I don’t have my head completely submerged in a hole as I do take a peek into the real world every now and again. I’m not sure I like what I see. I would much prefer women take control as men tend to think with what they have in their pants instead of what’s in their head.
So, which side misses out in unloving relationship?
Well, I guess it would usually be the woman/girl, but not always.
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Yeah, I knew that, I just wanted you to say it.
I think women tend to be hurt more. Even when they go in thinking it is just a friend’s with benefits kind of thing, there is still that wonderful hormone or whatever it is that is released in women that make them feel bonded with their lovers. So if there is no love in the relationship, the woman will feel like they are missing something, whereas the man will not.
~ Kristi
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So why is that Kristi? Could it be a primeval instinct that man must have to protect him for emotions that in ancient times could have got him killed or are some men just assholes.
I think your perspective was right on. Sadly it’s not what many girls want, but they go through with it anyway thinking if they do he’ll stay.
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The idea of this poem came to me one day as my young daughter was growing up. She’s 18 next month and I have feelings of dread every time she goes out.
Hi Sire
Television glamorises sex and doesn’t show the heartache that often accompanies situations like the one in the poem. sadly, I have counselled so many women who have so many regrets from their younger days and wrong decisions they made.
The way society is headed these days (here in Oz anyway) there appears to be no moral absolutes and therein lies one of the problems. A lot of young people are crying out for love and not getting it within a stable family environment. They go looking for it elsewhere.
I remember having a talk with my niece when she was about 14. She is now 21 and engaged. I explained to her that although she may be aware of a lot more than I did at her age, emotionally she was still the same age. Herein lies another problem. Emotionally they are still young, but they know too much….usually knowledge gained from all the wrong places!
I can appreciate how protective you must feel for your daughter. That’s how it should be Sire. My Father was my hero and he taught my brother how to treat girls from an early age. He in turn has always been a real respector of women and treats his wife wonderfully.
Patricia Perth Australia
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Too many parents let their children down wanting to be friends rather than taking the responsibility to take the hard road of providing them guidance. They need parents who can guide then and not another friend.
You’re so right about television glamorising sex and it’s a shame that so many don’t show the heartache involved in not having the proper values. Kids feel that because everyone seems to be doing it must be the right thing to do. You’re also right about them not being emotionally equipped to handle such situations. Too bad that so many have to learn the facts of life the hard way.