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A Good Argument For Tough Love vs Spanking

All through the ages people from all over the world have been arguing over ways of disciplining your children. A lot of countries have actually banned spanking the child saying that this leads to psychological damage. Yet a lot of people continue to do so quoting such authorities as the Bible that says things like ‘spare the rod and spoil the child’.

I used to get whacked when I was a kid and I even spanked my kids when I though it absolutely necessary, albeit with the palm of my hand. Perhaps if there was another method? Well it seems that there is as presented by one frustrated parent.

Most people think it improper to spank children, so I have tried other methods to control my kids when they have one of ‘those moments.’

One that I found effective is for me to just take the child for a car ride and talk.

Some say it’s the vibration from the car, others say it’s the time away from any distractions such as TV, Video Games, Computer, iPod, etc.

Either way, my kids usually calm down and stop misbehaving after our car ride together. Eye to eye contact helps a lot too.

I’ve included a photo below of one of my sessions with my son, in case you would like to use the technique.


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  1. It’s the first time I’ve seen it Mitch and I absolutely pissed myself laughing.

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      It’s funny because the first time it shows up, you never know what’s coming.

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    Dag, I knew that joke also, and still fell for the picture, which I’ve seen tons of times before. And I seen to laugh every single time.

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  3. Great picture Ha!!
    Our 4 year old has reached the age where she doesn’t listen to anything you say. Its very frustrating but don’t want to smack her as I used to get that punishment as a child and it never made me listen. I haven’t tried or heard of the car trip before, but its worth a try. Will let you know if it works after her next paddy.

  4. Say, they say a picture is worth a thousand words :laugh_tb: I reckon that girls are a lot more difficult than boys and there are probably other methods that can be used other than spanking, like positive and negative reinforcement depending on what is required.

  5. oh man, that’s the perfect answer! are you using a ecofriendly vehicle to do it though? ;-)

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  6. Are you kidding? The fumes add to the whole learning process.

  7. That is awesome. I think kids are not getting any discipline now because of all the rules about what is punishment vs. what is abuse.

    ~ Kristi

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  8. That is so true Kristi. People forget that children need boundaries and that they need to know and experience the consequence of crossing those boundaries. That’s how they learn and that is what the do gooders of society have taken away from them.

  9. Thanks for the laugh…. of course there IS a serious side to discipline and I think in many ways society is setting our kids up for huge confusion and disappointment in some ways now…..

    I’m proud to say my kids dig in dirt, climb trees and get the occasional smack on the bum…. they’re pretty good kids too (although I am a bit biased :))

    It’s definitely a very funny pic still got me smiling :D

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  10. Setting our kids up for failure is what we are heading for. I disagree with the way society tries to wrap kids up in cotton wool so that they never experience failure as they grow up. They won’t know what hits them when they enter the real world.

  11. Lol the photo is hilarious.. but kinda sad in a way..

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    1. Sad? In what way? That it had to get to the stage where we have to take them for a ride? Lucky we don’t fit them out with cement shoes. ;)

  12. Taking the kid for a ride and explaining sure does work. But think punishing the child once in a while is also needed. I’m sure you’ve heard this,

    “Spare the rod, Spoil the child.”

    1. Sure have, it’s straight from the Bible and on occasion it makes a lot of sense.

  13. Haha…I love the photo!

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  14. I’m so glad you liked it Susan, but perhaps another technique would be more useful on your boy. :wink_ee:

  15. Most of America ‘s populace think it improper to spank children, so I have tried other methods to control my kids when they have one of ‘those moments.’
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    1. Thanks for your comment. Spanking should always be the last resort and it should never be over used.

  16. Thank you for bringing a smile to my face today. Honestly, any parent who will be doing this will definitely get jailed for child abuse. Lol!
    Seriously though, I believe tough love is much more effective for parenting than spanking. Hurting a child physically will only give them that understanding that it’s okay to hurt someone as long as you think they did something wrong. Kids nowadays are smarter than we think and would likely get the wrong message we’re trying to teach them.
    Tough love on the other hand, will teach your child the importance of working hard for something they would want to achieve. Punishing through deprivation of material things or grounding will make them realize that it’s best to follow the rules and do good to be able to get what they want and learn to be responsible over any decisions they make. Spanking will only traumatize them, to be honest.

  17. I cant tell you why but I am sure my kids would think this is some kind of a fun ride.

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